What Is Your Destiny?

From one point of view, our destinies are sealed at birth. The fact is that we will die. There is no getting around this one.

Most of us think that our destiny is to do something good, be a rock star, or to become wealthy. Instead, we get humdrum educations, take humdrum jobs, and save only enough money to pay for our funereal. Some people cannot even do that. It is easy for people to say that life sucks, and they cannot get anything done.

Oh, if we could just win a lottery, then we would show our real potential.

Only a very few people win a lottery, and many of those squander their winnings, accomplishing very little except attract a lot of social parasites. Yeah, I still buy lottery tickets. Sometimes it is fun to dream. Like a lot of rednecks, I think I would get a couple of really fast cars. “Hey, hold my beer and watch this!” Remember those words?

Life brings what life brings. It is not up to us to demand something different. We have to accept what comes along, do our best to overcome negative situations, and use our intelligence to set goals and achieve something. I don’t believe people who go through life in the United States and achieve nothing have goals. Most of use take what comes, and try to adapt to situations.

Reasonable goal setting is one of the most difficult things I have ever done. It was easy to set the goal to get a college degree when I was in school, even though I was having to work full-time while going to school. When I got married, it was only natural to set the goal for my wife to be equally educated, which we thought was a worthy thing to do. The problem is that there was a time when we both had graduated, and found ourselves without any goal to pursue.

The day I graduated with my engineering degree, we had a house, a car, and two well-paying jobs. We had it made.

Then, the children came. How can you set goals when you are not getting sleep, and the baby has the colic? How can you set goals when the inflation rate during Jimmy Carter’s administration was in double digits? How can you set goals when you have a child, a mortgage, two cars, and an unemployed wife whose main job is to mother her children?

We thought it was too hard to do these things. We were wrong. Given a little maturity, we would have known that kids grow up, and that the economy can change. We both got masters degrees, and moved up in our respective professional worlds. At that point, the problem became reconciling personal with professional goals. How many promotions do you need in view of the fact that your family is comfortable in their current situation, and any promotion would involve a continental scale relocation?

So, you see, life is tough for everybody. The problems we faced were minor to some people in the world whose only goal was to put some pinto beans on the table.

I guess the whole point of this article is that we should understand where we want to go, and what we want to be doing before launching out on quests for our destiny. Sometimes, we can be satisfied just knowing we can put some beans on the table.

Be thankful, and make sensible goals. Share part of your prosperity with those stuck in the no-food line. Help them meet their goals. Maybe that will give you some ideas on meeting yours. Maybe in all this goal setting and helping people, you will find your destiny.

14 thoughts on “What Is Your Destiny?”

  1. I wish I’d read this at 30 🙂 It’s a bit late for my setting life-fulfilling goals, but I never was one to set really lofty goals….more sensible goals, as you say. And, of course, I married late, so my husband’s goals became mine….Probably, come to think of it, that’s kind of a thing a young couple might want to be asked before they get married… “are your goals similar”?”
    This was a great post; as usual.
    Thanks, Bob. xxx

  2. At the church where I teach homeschool classes, one of the questions posted on the church’s walls is “What did God create you to do?” — another way of asking “What is your destiny?” Every time I pass by that poster, I once again affirm that God created me to be a teacher. I’m really lucky to have known early on what the primary purpose of my life should be.

  3. AOW: There are always people like me that still don’t know what we were “meant’ to do. I have so many interests, and have been an engineer, salesman, national level sales manager, marketing manager, and even a used-car salesman. Probably the most fun I had at any job was being an engineer at a radio/tv station while I was going to college.

    Then there are people like you who have been privileged to know what they need to be doing. I have great respect for you, and people like you. My wife knew from her college days that she wanted to be an elementary school librarian, and was fortunate to have been exactly that for over thirty years. In that time she was able to design a library for a new school, was teacher of the year in another, and when she goes back to substitute teach, still gets hugged by kids she served two or three years ago. Everybody in the community knows her to the point that she refuses to shop at certain stores because of the little ones waving at her.

    Thanks for your comment.

  4. Bob, I learned I was a very good teacher (if you pardon my humility!) at my age…which isn’t young! I’m very sorry about it. A Christian mentor dear friend mentioned this recently and “I have always known that about you..” WHO KNEW? I think enthusiasm is half the battle in being a good teacher. I’m brimming over with that!
    But, I haven’t done it….and I, too, am like you; too many interests and, frankly, too many things I was ” a little good at” …I never felt I was really good, enough to claim it and DO IT, and now I know what it was and it’s a tad bit late 😦
    I was an interior design my whole career and that encompassed lots of interests and talents, so it wasn’t a complete waste, but I SO WISH I’d been a teacher now.
    AOW is a MAGNIFICENT TEACHER….it’s SO clear she is one of THE BEST.

  5. Z said: ” I SO WISH I’d been a teacher now.” Now you have found it, it is not too late to enjoy it, either. I have always advised people that it really doesn’t matter what you do, but if you aren’t having fun doing what you do, you need to make a change. That’s easy to say, and I never took my own advice very well. We all get into situations that are not to our benefit, and sometimes we cannot escape them. We must remember who we are, and comport ourselves in that manner. My motto has always been, “Don’t let the little people get you down.” I am glad you enjoy teaching because I view it as the least appreciated profession, today.

  6. Thanks, Bob. I got called to substitute teach on Wednesday, so I’m delighted! And I’ll go to the school’s boys varsity volleyball game that day, too. They LOVE it when ol’ Mrs Z comes to watch 😉 Makes me feel so good to get their reactions!
    Yes, I’m trying to figure out a way I can interact with those bless-ed kids again. And I will !

    I just read a couple of your comments re fracking, etc., to Ducky. I want you to take this in the manner in which it’s meant…I think the WORLD of you.
    That’s what I came here to say! Thank you SO MUCH for being at geeeeZ and for having wise answers that stupify the Left! You’ll never know how I appreciate it.

  7. When I say that I knew early on that I wanted to be a teacher, I do mean early on! At the age of four, I used to line up our hens and “teach” them.

    Later on, once I saw the film The Miracle Worker, my destiny was sealed. Annie Sullivan is my role model — as a teacher (not her political views).

    Also, I was privileged to have the best teacher ever from 3rd grade through high school. Mr. T was a master teacher and knew how to impart to his students the love of learning. Talk about “stretching” us! If we were ready to study something, we got to study that something — no matter the grade level of the work. People like Mr. T don’t come along very often.

    BTW, no family member before me was a teacher. However, my mother did teach me to read at home — before I ever walked into a classroom (Kindergarten at age 4).

  8. I knew I wanted to be an engineer when I was in high school. The big brother of a friend was an engineer, and my brother in law was an amateur radio operator, so, all things techy and electronic became my world. I was a junior in the engineering curriculum when I realized I really didn’t want to be an engineer. I finished the program, got the degree, and was an engineer for about two years. I was recruited to a sales job by Motorola, and have not looked back.

  9. Thanks, Angel. Things are a bit upside down right now, but will get better. Illness in the house. Thanks for looking in on me.

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